Significance of the "Ole Lady"
In the world of motorcycle clubs (MCs), the term "Ole Lady" holds a special significance. An "Ole Lady" is a term of endearment and utmost respect, denoting the partner of a club member. It signifies a deep bond of loyalty, love, and unwavering support. When paired with the phrase "Property Of," it further underscores the committed and cherished relationship between a biker and his partner. This term, while seemingly possessive to outsiders, reflects trust and mutual respect. It also serves as a clear signal that she is protected and honored by the entire club, not just by her partner. Understand that this commentary is the view of The Vicious Vixen and based my own personal experience and opinion. I have some very strong ideals and opinions of what "Stand Up" and "Ride or Die" really mean for an Ole Lady. You may or may not agree, and if you don't that's okay. I'm sure you've been wrong before, so being wrong again shouldn't bother you in the least.
Vital Role Within the Club
The role of the "Ole Lady" is vital within motorcycle club culture. She is not merely a passive observer but an integral part of the club's fabric. Her presence is akin to that of a supporting actress in a Hollywood movie—she may not be the star, but her contribution is essential to the narrative. An "Ole Lady" knows she will never be the main focus, yet she embraces her role with pride and dedication, ensuring the stars of the show shine even brighter.
Influence and Responsibilities
A good "Ole Lady" understands and thrives in her role. She recognizes that the MC is a man's club, and while she is not a member, her influence is undeniable. She supports the club's activities, stands by her partner, and sets an example for other women in the community. Her loyalty and strength are pivotal, guiding the club in subtle yet significant ways. While the men of the MC are the alphas, forming the club's “body,” the "Ole Ladies" are the “neck” that helps guide the body. This metaphor beautifully illustrates their influence—though the body holds the strength, it moves wherever the neck turns.
Fostering Unity and Strength
A respectable "Ole Lady" fosters unity and harmony within the club. She is a source of comfort and strength for her partner, providing the stability needed for him to fulfill his duties. By setting a positive example, she inspires other "Ole Ladies" to do the same, creating a cohesive and supportive community. Her influence, though often understated, is indispensable. By embracing her role with pride and dedication, she not only supports her partner and the club but also upholds the values and traditions that make the MC culture unique and enduring.
Personal Insights from Experience
As a woman who has been part of the one-percenter MC culture, though not a club member, I can describe my experience. Members must be men, but women, as the wives or girlfriends of these men, spend a great deal of time around club members, participating in club activities. My Ole Man was a member of one of “The Big Four” clubs for several years. I discovered that the illusion of being part of a biker club and the reality were very different.
The Reality of the Lifestyle
In the one-percenter world, outlaw biker women are often seen as second-class citizens in a testosterone-driven life. Yet, these women tend to be just as, if not more, loyal and devoted to the spirit of brotherhood than some men in the club. Outlaw biker clubs are appealing for those seeking the thrill of danger, the adrenaline rush of being part of something notorious, and the satisfaction of respect or fear from outsiders. The bond among members is almost stronger than that of blood, with a dedication to each other's lives that most people would never understand.
Challenges and Misconceptions
These clubs are not democratic organizations. They are run firmly by men who clawed their way to the top. Private agendas and cutthroat politics often motivate these leaders. Many people enter this lifestyle thinking every member lives by the creed of love, loyalty, and respect. However, the reality is different. The club's large size and diverse values often lead to clashes and disappointment. Many patched men leave the lifestyle within five years due to the high demands and expenses.
Women in the Lifestyle
Women must be outwardly submissive, thick-skinned about sexist attitudes, and able to get along with other women. The truly righteous Ole Ladies have basic rules: never disrespect a patch holder in public, be the club's eyes and ears, and live in a precarious place between what they should and shouldn't know. The media's stereotype of outlaw biker chicks doesn't match the reality. These women are resilient, patient, and often wield their own influence by supporting their Ole Man and the club.
Enduring Impact
The Ole Ladies show what true brotherhood should look like, sacrificing for those they love. They endure a lot in the outlaw culture, and their men reap the reward. If you ask me, the Ole Ladies are the real outlaw bikers.
08/21/1992